Whahaahahah… i almost laughed out loud in office reading the Warning Sign #4. That useless whimp.. LoL~~~~
The Scenario
You have been dating your man for a couple of years. Although he hasn’t popped the question yet, you’re already seriously considering him being your life partner. He’s nice, funny and generous. What more could a girl want? Except if he’s commitment-phobic then tying the knot might not even be in his future plans. How can you tell what he’s thinking especially when he is being equivocal about his commitment status? Listen when he speaks.
Warning Sign #1:
Him: “Are we seeing each other too much? I think we need more personal space.”
Interpretation:
Of course, the context matters here. If he’s spending every weekend with you, and you are asking him to meet up every night after work, it might be too much for him. Demanding to spend Every Single Minute together is not the way to go and he can turn resentful: Too much of anything can be unhealthy so give him some personal freedom.
On the other hand, if he works a hundred hours a week then chooses to catch up with his pals during his free time, then you have a right to feel insulted. If he is continually living the life of a bachelor, and makes little effort to have ‘couple time’ with you, it’s not a great sign. After all, if he’s less than keen to hang out with you during his free time, it’s unlikely he will be thrilled to wake up every morning with you beside him for the rest of his life.
Warning Sign #2:
You: “What are your future plans?”
Him: “Get promoted to senior manager. And own a luxury BMW by 35.”
Interpretation:
Whenever he speaks about his goals in life, he describes them in terms of occupational achievements and vehicular conquests: Zilch on your relationship.
If marriage is not in his cards, then it explains why: His goals don’t involve you. Maybe he is just an ambitious and career-oriented guy, but if he is seriously thinking about making you his life partner, he would be discussing important marital issues like financial arrangements, housing loans and wedding plans with you.
Warning Sign #3:
You: “I was meaning our future?”
Him: “Marriage? What’s the rush, hon? I’m not financially ready yet and I’m under a lot of stress from my mother – she insists I find a Catholic wife – and my grandma is adamant the girl must be a vegan just like her… Give me time to convince them.”
Interpretation:
If he gives one good reason, then most probably he really means it. But if he starts displaying symptoms of Excuse Overload: He dishes out a different excuse each time you broach the topic of matrimony or gives you a long list of lame ‘reasons’, chances are he’s merely putting you on.
Warning Sign #4:
Him: “I can’t believe Eric got married! That useless wimp.”
Interpretation:
Eric, one of his buddies, just tied the knot; and the man in your life is cursing the groom. Is he just missing his friend’s company or upset over his shrinking bachelor’s circle? Highly unlikely, given that he called Eric a wimp for getting hitched. Not wanting to sound like Freud, but that offers some psychological insight into his state of mind. It’s a dead giveaway to his attitude concerning marriage.
